Conversation Starters 9-12

Teaching self-awareness and building relationships remotely can be especially challenging with high-school aged students. We compiled this list of conversation starters for students in 9th-12th grade to expand and deepen dialogue in creative and engaging ways.

Conversation Starters

  • Let’s see where we all are on the Mindset Map. Dive into why if you feel comfortable.
  • Let’s talk about a rose and thorn from the last week (rose: beautiful moment, thorn: challenging moment).
  • Name an imaginary college class you wish this school offered.


  • What is something fun that you learned in the last week that you can share with me?
  • What would the title of your autobiography be?
  • Besides graduating, what is your number one goal for your remaining time at school?
  • Who do you think is a great example of a successful person?
  • What do you most appreciate in life?
  • What do people never ask you that you wish they did?
  • What animal represents you in the present and why? (You can also ask in the past and future.)
  • Are you an early bird or night owl?
  • What’s the last great TV show or movie you wanted?
  • What’s your favorite tradition?
  • What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
  • What unusual superpower would you like to have? (No flying, invisibility, X-ray vision, or super strength/speed - think outside of the box)
  • If you could hang out with any cartoon character, who would you choose and why?
  • If you could be any animal in the world, what animal would you choose to be?
  • Would you rather meet your travel back in time to meet your ancestors or to the future to meet your descendants?
  • Do you have any hidden talents?
  • What song, album, or artist could you listen to on repeat?
  • What movie do you think everyone should watch?
  • You can only choose one to use for the rest of your life, which do you choose? (TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, or Facebook)